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What I Learned

Hi everyone! I hope everyone in the Chicago-land area is staying warm and safe on the roads today!

SO! It has officially been one year since I launched TheBestSings! & what a journey it has been! I never thought writing my thoughts, likes, and dislikes on the internet would be so fulfilling, but it has truly been life-changing. I wanted to share a couple things that blogging and sharing on social media has taught me. For all of you out there that are scared to start something new in your lives because of fear of judgement (not just blogging, literally anything), keep reading!!

This is also for the people that have contemplated starting a blog or are thinking about becoming a social influencer! Do it! it’s amazing! Here’s your proof:

  • Your thoughts, words, and actions are so much more powerful than you can even imagine.

    • People need a positive light in their lives. Whether that is me, you, or someone else, positivity can be hard to accept in such a negative world, but people need it. & as much as they don’t want to admit it, they also love it. They also need people that are unapoligetically themselves. People that are who they are without apologizing are the kind of people others need in their lives.

  • Not everyone will support you.

    • Throughout this year, I have realized who my true supporters are. Blogging, Instagram, etc. isn’t for everyone. Not everyone in my life wants to know what freaking shade of lipstick I’m wearing, BUT those that want to see me succeed have been there every step of the way, liking every picture, and telling me how amazing I am. The right people will stick by you no matter what journey you choose to take.

  • Making people feel good makes me feel good.

    • I never thought I would feel so much joy trying to make other people feel good. I am 100% the person that appreciates a compliment or words of affirmation. I have realized that giving those words make me feel just as good, if not better. Uplifing others and showing them how much potential they have is such a gift. When I get a message along the lines of “I needed this today”, it truly does warm my heart. The world needs more light. Choose to be one.

  • You are the only thing that can make you happy.

    • The less I cared what people thought, the happier I became. Throughout most of my life, I searched for validation of others. When I started this blog, I did it for me. I did it as an outlet to express what I feel, what I like, and what I dislike. From there it became a platform that I wanted to use for good (because surprisingly, people like what I have to say) . All of these aspects combined made me so so happy. That’s why I keep doing it. Becuase I am so fulfilled with what this platform does for my life and even better, for the lives of others.

  • I have literally the best family and friends int he world.

    • I am literally tearing up writing this part because my friends and family are the biggest and best supporters I could ask for. My family barely understands what a blog and Instagram are, but they ask how they can help. My friends don’t really follow blogs or influencers, but every chance they get, they take a picture or give me ideas or tell me how amazing it is that I am doing it. I have the best friends and family in the world.

  • I have become SO self-aware

    • When you publicise even some of your thoughts and actions into the world for other people to see, you start to think about those thoughts and actions a lot more than not. I have realized what I stand for, what I want out of certain experiences ande even life! I have realized how much goodness I have that I never realized I had. I have realized negatives too. Like how I need to work on self-confidence more, how I need to stop comparing, etc. Overall, it has been very eye-opening internally!

  • I have started to live with more intention.

    • With everything that I do, I feel myself asking “Why am I doing this?” “How will this benefit me?” “Will this make me happy?”. I look at this as a positive because it helps me decide to do things that I ENJOY and not things that I feel like I HAVE to do. In effect, I find myself happier and I enjoy myself so much more.

  • I LOVE my job.

    • Music has always been my hobby. When I started teaching, it became my career and, in affect, something that I surrounded myself with SO MUCH. I found myself starting to feel like it was a burden and I NEVER wanted that to happen. I chose this career because of how much joy it brought me. When I started blogging, it added another hobby in my life. I started discovering new parts of my interests and my job became fun again since I wasn’t putting all of my attention on it. I feel like I have a good balance because of this blog.

Overall, this year I have grown more than I ever have. I hope this inspires you to start something that you were scared of before. Start taking baby-steps towards that goal. I promise it’ll be worth it!

Current favorites:

Drink: Honey Oat Milk Latte, Pinot Noir

Song: anything Jess Glynn

Food: anything peanut butter

Book: The Help

Movie: Midnight in Paris

Makeup Product: L’oreal Age Rewind Concealer

 

Stay curious & kind,

–TheBestSings

Feeling Good at 23

On Tuesday of this week, I turned 23. I have spent a lot of this week realizing that this is the best that I have felt about myself EVER. So I started thinking “what makes me feel this way?” “what lessons have I learned in my 23 short years to make me so happy in life?”.

These are the 23 things that I have learned and realize to help me feel good about myself and the world around me.

  1. Your real friends will tell you how they feel, but support you no matter what.

Everyone is different, includint the people we surround ourselves with, but the true people that are meant to be in your life, even if they disagree with you, will support you no matter what.

2. If you ever want to feel like a VS model, throw a short dress on and put on some black thigh highs.

Thank me later.

3. People always say “practice makes perfect”, but I disagree. I think I learned this in high school band and it serioualy apploies to every aspect of my life. “Perfect practice makes perfect”. 

4. Don’t stop yourself from doing something that makes you happy just becuase you’re scared of what people will think. 

I’ll use this platform as an example. When I started my blog and correlating Instagram, I was so scared people would judge me, and they did. I have lost hundreds of followers, including friends. BUT IT’S OKAY!! Not everyone will want to see everything you’re doing. It’s not their cup of tea and THAT IS OKAY. As long as you are doing what makes you happy, you’ll find the people that want to follow along on your journey, whatever that may be.

5. Avocados make everything better. 

Amen.

6. Learn to be comfortable with discomfort. 

I learned this one during student teaching. This world and society like to make us think and feel certain ways. So whenever something isn’t a part of the status quo or something of that sort, those topics are avoided. To grow your mind, heart, and spirit, I feel like it is important to talk about and experience the things that make us uncomfortable to ultimatly be comfortable in that discomfort.

7. The perfect shade of red lipstick is out there. And once you find yours, you will feel unstoppable. 

Mine is Estee Lauder! Revlon Ultra HD Matte is also a great one.

8. Never stop being curious. 

The more curious you are, the more you learn.

9. Learn to see the good. 

As difficult as this is sometimes, we have one life. See the good in it and I promise you will wake up everyday more excited to live this life. Also, learn to see the good in people, even the ones that make it difficult to.

10. Mental health is important. 

For a long period of my life I avoided this statement because I didn’t realize what it was doing to me and to others around me. When I started prioritizing it, I became a kinder person to other and myself.

11. Mile Cyrus and Lady Gaga are the queens. 

Fight me on it. I promise I’ll win. 😉

12. To show vulernability and transparency requires an unbelievable amount of stength. 

Being yourself and not apologizing for how you feel is hard, but worth it.

13. A fresh set of nails is telling the world you have your shit together and that you are FIERCE and READY. 

14. Everybody is different and every body is beautiful.

AKA fuck society’s standards of beauty.

15. Work out.

Even if it’s literally once a week, challenge your body and see it’s potential.

16. Never go out without feeling like a 10/10.

Even if it takes 3 hours to get there, you deserve to be insecurity-free and feeling like a DIME when you go out.

17. Collaboration over competition. 

Support each other. It gets lonely when all you think about is yourself.

18. It is okay to binge-watch a whole series on Netflix in one night while drinking a bottle of wine. 

DO IT. You deserve it.

19. Self reflection will seriously change your life. 

20. Pineapple belongs on pizza. 

21. Never lower your standards. 

You are priceless, so find people that treat you that way.

22. Everyone has a story. If you take the time to listen to it, you might find out some pretty amazing things. Even about yourself. 

23. Choose Joy.

That’s all I have for you today, friends 🙂

Always remember,

Stay curious & kind

–-TheBestSings