Stop Feeling Sorry For Yourself

Hi everyone! I am so happy that you’re back! 

I’m sorry for the harsh title, I just really wanted to get your attention.

But don’t worry, I’ll cover the title in this post too!

I’m not really sure how to introduce this topic, but I feel like it’s one that should be spoken about, so I’ll just get into it!

**I will always say this little reminder, I am not an expert, I am not a guru, I am an imperfect person sharing her experiences and hopefully helping or influencing someone to live their best life.**

You are capable, you are couragious, you are worthy, and you are strong.

Telling myself these things seem a little dramatic and cheesy sometimes, but I need to say them to myself for some pretty uplifting reasons.

Growing up, my self-esteem mixed with my on-going anxiety has held me back by constantly telling me lies about myself. “I’m not short enough, I am so socially awkward, I’m not skinny enough, I am so weird, I am way too different, why can’t I enjoy what people my age enjoy?” The list goes on. Except the thing is, I didn’t even realize how often these thoughts were in my head. It’s like they are always there, but not in the forefront of my mind. Which in effect completely altered how I viewed myself and my life.

That is why I fill my life with compliments. I tell myself these “cheesy” and “dramatic” things because at the end of the day, if you’re not nice to yourself, it really won’t matter if other people are because you will always be in a negative headspace.

You are in control of how you view yourself and how you view your life. 

These negative and diminshing thoughts that run through your head are SO MUCH EASIER to hold onto than the positive and empowering thoughts. They are easier because feeling sorry for yourself requires less work than actually going out and becoming the best version of yourself. 

Don’t get me wrong, I have had days that I should have been doing anything but lying in bed eating ice cream and feeling sorry for myself, but I did it anyways. No one is perfect and everyone has bad days, everyone has bed weeks, everyone has bad months.

I’m not saying to ignore your struggles, but I am challenging you to transform them into motivation to become the best possible person you can be.

How I attempt to do that:

  • I take a step back and really think about what the most negative parts of my life are.
  • I take those negatives and decide what I should do about them. Whether that be completely throwing them out of my life or changing them into something good and empowering.

The best example that I can give you is how I view myself. This is an ongoing struggle for not only me, but I’m sure most of you. I take my weight. I always feel so sorry for myself when it comes to my weight. I take that negative energy (even if it takes a month to do so, because remember, no one is perfect) and I make a plan to change it. I just recently went through this change after months of feeling sorry for myself and treating my body badly.

Even the smallest step helps. 

In result, I started intermittent fasting and signed up for Orange Theory Fitness with my girlfriends. I already feel so much more alive and I’ve only been doing it for about a week!

The point of all of this: 

You are in control of your own life.

You are capable of amazing and powerful things.

But you have to decide that you want to achieve those things.

It’s so much easier said than done, I know. But even if this little reflection of mine made you start reflecting a little on your own life, then I feel like I have fulfilled some good today.

Remember, you are capable, you are couragious, you are worthy, and you are strong.

Now go and prove it to yoruself.


Share your stories with me. Let’s have conversations! I love talking to you all and hearing your feedback. We can all help each other through things like this! That’s the whole reason why I do this!

Stay curious & kind,


Here is Why You Are Beautiful

Hi Everyone!

I hope life is going well and you are feeling beautiful & worthy.

Throughout most of my life, I have struggled with body image. Sometimes, the reprecussions were a lot more severe than others, but thankfully I learned how to manage it. I still struggle with it everyday, and if you are like me, know that you are not alone and know more importantly, you are beautiful.

I don’t want this to be about me. I want this journey to be about us. Becuase all of us are so different and unique.

Do you want to know what really pisses me off?

The way society can define us. That society can tell us if we are beautiful or not. The way that they think they have the power. It has taken me a long time to realize this, but THEY DON’T HAVE ANY POWER OVER US.

How I changed my mindet

Like I have said so many times before in other posts, I am not perfect, I am not a guru, I am not all-knowing. I can only speak through my experiences, & if I can reach just one person, I feel like I have helped the world become a better place. So thank you for reading, I appreciate you 🙂

  • Please do me a favor & take a look at this site. I promise it will help change your mindset.

Body Types Through History

I have probably visited this page over 100 times since I have discovered it.

From year to year in 10 year increments, society has expected us to fit these molds of “beauty”. Like, I am sorry I personally am not about to gain and lose about 50 lbs year to year. No thanks, I like my donuts and sanity, thank you.

When I read this and watch these videos, I am reminded of the unattainble standards that I feel are placed on me, and I laugh at the people who think I care anymore.

  • I surrounded myself with supportive and uplifting people.

There was a time in my life a couple years back that I realized I was in toxic relationships. I felt I was being compared to constantly, I felt judged, and I felt myself becoming jealous. I unfollowed everyone that I felt myself becoming jealous of on Instagram, I removed myself of toxic relationships, and I became very open about my insecurities so the people that I was close to knew I was struggling. I became communicative of my pain and how outcasted I felt, and I got nothing but support in return from these people.

  • I looked at myself in the mirror EVERY DAY and told myself I was beautiful. & every week, I picked one new thingt to focus on embracing.

This helped me convince myself of my greatness. AND IT WORKED. I know it sounds kinda cheesy and tedious, but I promise this is what sparked my self-love more than anything.

  • I wrote myself reminders on post-it notes and I immersed myself into positive Pinterest quotes.

Again, chessy, but I promised it put me in such a positive and motivated head space.


That’s all I have for you. Remember that you are worthy and you are beautiful. If you ever want to have a conversation about this, know I am here to help, listen, or talk. Embrace who you are and you will be undefeatable.

Stay curious & kind,