Hi everyone! I am so happy that you’re back!
I’m sorry for the harsh title, I just really wanted to get your attention.
But don’t worry, I’ll cover the title in this post too!
I’m not really sure how to introduce this topic, but I feel like it’s one that should be spoken about, so I’ll just get into it!
**I will always say this little reminder, I am not an expert, I am not a guru, I am an imperfect person sharing her experiences and hopefully helping or influencing someone to live their best life.**
You are capable, you are couragious, you are worthy, and you are strong.
Telling myself these things seem a little dramatic and cheesy sometimes, but I need to say them to myself for some pretty uplifting reasons.
Growing up, my self-esteem mixed with my on-going anxiety has held me back by constantly telling me lies about myself. “I’m not short enough, I am so socially awkward, I’m not skinny enough, I am so weird, I am way too different, why can’t I enjoy what people my age enjoy?” The list goes on. Except the thing is, I didn’t even realize how often these thoughts were in my head. It’s like they are always there, but not in the forefront of my mind. Which in effect completely altered how I viewed myself and my life.
That is why I fill my life with compliments. I tell myself these “cheesy” and “dramatic” things because at the end of the day, if you’re not nice to yourself, it really won’t matter if other people are because you will always be in a negative headspace.
You are in control of how you view yourself and how you view your life.
These negative and diminshing thoughts that run through your head are SO MUCH EASIER to hold onto than the positive and empowering thoughts. They are easier because feeling sorry for yourself requires less work than actually going out and becoming the best version of yourself.
Don’t get me wrong, I have had days that I should have been doing anything but lying in bed eating ice cream and feeling sorry for myself, but I did it anyways. No one is perfect and everyone has bad days, everyone has bed weeks, everyone has bad months.
I’m not saying to ignore your struggles, but I am challenging you to transform them into motivation to become the best possible person you can be.
How I attempt to do that:
- I take a step back and really think about what the most negative parts of my life are.
- I take those negatives and decide what I should do about them. Whether that be completely throwing them out of my life or changing them into something good and empowering.
The best example that I can give you is how I view myself. This is an ongoing struggle for not only me, but I’m sure most of you. I take my weight. I always feel so sorry for myself when it comes to my weight. I take that negative energy (even if it takes a month to do so, because remember, no one is perfect) and I make a plan to change it. I just recently went through this change after months of feeling sorry for myself and treating my body badly.
Even the smallest step helps.
In result, I started intermittent fasting and signed up for Orange Theory Fitness with my girlfriends. I already feel so much more alive and I’ve only been doing it for about a week!
The point of all of this:
You are in control of your own life.
You are capable of amazing and powerful things.
But you have to decide that you want to achieve those things.
It’s so much easier said than done, I know. But even if this little reflection of mine made you start reflecting a little on your own life, then I feel like I have fulfilled some good today.
Remember, you are capable, you are couragious, you are worthy, and you are strong.
Now go and prove it to yoruself.
Sidenote:
Share your stories with me. Let’s have conversations! I love talking to you all and hearing your feedback. We can all help each other through things like this! That’s the whole reason why I do this!
Stay curious & kind,
–TheBestSings
The Best Sings 