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Feeling Good at 23

On Tuesday of this week, I turned 23. I have spent a lot of this week realizing that this is the best that I have felt about myself EVER. So I started thinking “what makes me feel this way?” “what lessons have I learned in my 23 short years to make me so happy in life?”.

These are the 23 things that I have learned and realize to help me feel good about myself and the world around me.

  1. Your real friends will tell you how they feel, but support you no matter what.

Everyone is different, includint the people we surround ourselves with, but the true people that are meant to be in your life, even if they disagree with you, will support you no matter what.

2. If you ever want to feel like a VS model, throw a short dress on and put on some black thigh highs.

Thank me later.

3. People always say “practice makes perfect”, but I disagree. I think I learned this in high school band and it serioualy apploies to every aspect of my life. “Perfect practice makes perfect”. 

4. Don’t stop yourself from doing something that makes you happy just becuase you’re scared of what people will think. 

I’ll use this platform as an example. When I started my blog and correlating Instagram, I was so scared people would judge me, and they did. I have lost hundreds of followers, including friends. BUT IT’S OKAY!! Not everyone will want to see everything you’re doing. It’s not their cup of tea and THAT IS OKAY. As long as you are doing what makes you happy, you’ll find the people that want to follow along on your journey, whatever that may be.

5. Avocados make everything better. 

Amen.

6. Learn to be comfortable with discomfort. 

I learned this one during student teaching. This world and society like to make us think and feel certain ways. So whenever something isn’t a part of the status quo or something of that sort, those topics are avoided. To grow your mind, heart, and spirit, I feel like it is important to talk about and experience the things that make us uncomfortable to ultimatly be comfortable in that discomfort.

7. The perfect shade of red lipstick is out there. And once you find yours, you will feel unstoppable. 

Mine is Estee Lauder! Revlon Ultra HD Matte is also a great one.

8. Never stop being curious. 

The more curious you are, the more you learn.

9. Learn to see the good. 

As difficult as this is sometimes, we have one life. See the good in it and I promise you will wake up everyday more excited to live this life. Also, learn to see the good in people, even the ones that make it difficult to.

10. Mental health is important. 

For a long period of my life I avoided this statement because I didn’t realize what it was doing to me and to others around me. When I started prioritizing it, I became a kinder person to other and myself.

11. Mile Cyrus and Lady Gaga are the queens. 

Fight me on it. I promise I’ll win. 😉

12. To show vulernability and transparency requires an unbelievable amount of stength. 

Being yourself and not apologizing for how you feel is hard, but worth it.

13. A fresh set of nails is telling the world you have your shit together and that you are FIERCE and READY. 

14. Everybody is different and every body is beautiful.

AKA fuck society’s standards of beauty.

15. Work out.

Even if it’s literally once a week, challenge your body and see it’s potential.

16. Never go out without feeling like a 10/10.

Even if it takes 3 hours to get there, you deserve to be insecurity-free and feeling like a DIME when you go out.

17. Collaboration over competition. 

Support each other. It gets lonely when all you think about is yourself.

18. It is okay to binge-watch a whole series on Netflix in one night while drinking a bottle of wine. 

DO IT. You deserve it.

19. Self reflection will seriously change your life. 

20. Pineapple belongs on pizza. 

21. Never lower your standards. 

You are priceless, so find people that treat you that way.

22. Everyone has a story. If you take the time to listen to it, you might find out some pretty amazing things. Even about yourself. 

23. Choose Joy.

That’s all I have for you today, friends 🙂

Always remember,

Stay curious & kind

–-TheBestSings 

 

The Right People Will

Growing up, I always felt that I had trouble making and maintaining friendships. To this day, it is something that I internally struggle with on the daily. I think to myself “am I being a good friend?” “do they care about me as much as I care about them?” etc.

I’m writing about this because I know I am not the only person that feels this way. It is an uncomfortable topic to talk about, but I feel like it is important.

So like I said, friendships always made me anxious. I wanted the people I admired and wanted to be friends with to want the same things from me. Sometimes, I got lucky and those friendships stuck, sometimes they didn’t.

I’m talking about this because as I get older, the real ones are there. As we get older, we develop into who we are meant to be, we move away from home, we start new jobs, we aren’t so afraid to be our true selves anymore. And all of that is SO AMAZING and SO EXCITING!

Especially in our early 20’s, everyone is in such different parts of life. Some are in school, some are in different countries, some are engaged, some are starting completely new journeys, some have really changed (which is not a bad thing). Accepting all of these things and empowering each other is what I feel this stage of life is all about. We are all so caught up in this world we live in, and the true ones will stand by your side, support you, cheer you on, and be true and honest with you.

I have said this before, I am no guru, but I thought maybe a little reminder might inspire you to reach out to someone you might not have spoken to in a while, maybe even years. You never know what someone is going through, even a text can completely change their day.

If you can’t tell, my love language out of the 5 is “words of affirmation” 🙂

OR tell the people closest to you that you love and appreciate them for sticking around even through the hard times. Relationships are what bring the most joy into life. This interaction and support is what fuels only positivity into your life. Stay true to one another.

I seriously don’t mean to sound like I’m telling you what to do or that I am all-knowing. All I try to do on this blog of mine is speak from experience. Life can be hard and also wonderful, and by speaking through all of those things, even the bad, I hope to reach someone one day and help them realize that they are not alone. That they are powerful and beautiful no matter what they go through. I hope I could help 🙂

Stay curious & kind,

— TheBestSings