Stop Feeling Sorry For Yourself

Hi everyone! I am so happy that you’re back! 

I’m sorry for the harsh title, I just really wanted to get your attention.

But don’t worry, I’ll cover the title in this post too!

I’m not really sure how to introduce this topic, but I feel like it’s one that should be spoken about, so I’ll just get into it!

**I will always say this little reminder, I am not an expert, I am not a guru, I am an imperfect person sharing her experiences and hopefully helping or influencing someone to live their best life.**

You are capable, you are couragious, you are worthy, and you are strong.

Telling myself these things seem a little dramatic and cheesy sometimes, but I need to say them to myself for some pretty uplifting reasons.

Growing up, my self-esteem mixed with my on-going anxiety has held me back by constantly telling me lies about myself. “I’m not short enough, I am so socially awkward, I’m not skinny enough, I am so weird, I am way too different, why can’t I enjoy what people my age enjoy?” The list goes on. Except the thing is, I didn’t even realize how often these thoughts were in my head. It’s like they are always there, but not in the forefront of my mind. Which in effect completely altered how I viewed myself and my life.

That is why I fill my life with compliments. I tell myself these “cheesy” and “dramatic” things because at the end of the day, if you’re not nice to yourself, it really won’t matter if other people are because you will always be in a negative headspace.

You are in control of how you view yourself and how you view your life. 

These negative and diminshing thoughts that run through your head are SO MUCH EASIER to hold onto than the positive and empowering thoughts. They are easier because feeling sorry for yourself requires less work than actually going out and becoming the best version of yourself. 

Don’t get me wrong, I have had days that I should have been doing anything but lying in bed eating ice cream and feeling sorry for myself, but I did it anyways. No one is perfect and everyone has bad days, everyone has bed weeks, everyone has bad months.

I’m not saying to ignore your struggles, but I am challenging you to transform them into motivation to become the best possible person you can be.

How I attempt to do that:

  • I take a step back and really think about what the most negative parts of my life are.
  • I take those negatives and decide what I should do about them. Whether that be completely throwing them out of my life or changing them into something good and empowering.

The best example that I can give you is how I view myself. This is an ongoing struggle for not only me, but I’m sure most of you. I take my weight. I always feel so sorry for myself when it comes to my weight. I take that negative energy (even if it takes a month to do so, because remember, no one is perfect) and I make a plan to change it. I just recently went through this change after months of feeling sorry for myself and treating my body badly.

Even the smallest step helps. 

In result, I started intermittent fasting and signed up for Orange Theory Fitness with my girlfriends. I already feel so much more alive and I’ve only been doing it for about a week!

The point of all of this: 

You are in control of your own life.

You are capable of amazing and powerful things.

But you have to decide that you want to achieve those things.

It’s so much easier said than done, I know. But even if this little reflection of mine made you start reflecting a little on your own life, then I feel like I have fulfilled some good today.

Remember, you are capable, you are couragious, you are worthy, and you are strong.

Now go and prove it to yoruself.


Share your stories with me. Let’s have conversations! I love talking to you all and hearing your feedback. We can all help each other through things like this! That’s the whole reason why I do this!

Stay curious & kind,


My Winter Essentials

The CHILLY CHILLY part of winter is approaching us, and I find myself repeatedly using some items or I keep telling myself to buy them, so I’ll share those things here!

To Keep Warm 

Nordstrom Rack Just Jamie Wrap

This is 61% off right now! Making this cozy and huge wrap/scarf under $13!

Buy Here!


Old Navy Sweater Knit Scarf

This scarf is so soft and cozy and FIVE DOLLARS on their website right now!

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Smoky Grey Sherpa Pullover

Sherpa’s are so in and for good reason. They are cozy, soft, and they keep you SOSO warm. This one is only $26. That’s the cheapest I have found from a good and trusting brand!

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Revlon Ulta HD Matte Lipcolor

If you are looking for an affordable, long-lasting, color that will actually stay on all day, I have become your new best friend. This stuff is THE BEST long-lasting, moisturizing lip color I have EVER used. You can buy it anywhere and I promise you, you will LOVE it. People ask me what lip color I am wearing, and this is mostly -likely the answer I have given them. This is the only long-lasting lip color I have used for months now. Including nudes AND reds!

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Hempz Lotion

I have been using Hempz since high school! I have super dry skin & this lotion really is just so moisturizing and the difference scents that they offer are all so good smelling! & right now at Target, they are selling it for only $14! It’s usually around $24!

Fun fact: Hempz is the #1 recommended lotion to use after tanning!

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Kopari Lip Glossy

Kopari is becoming one of my favorite skin-care brands. They are cruelty-free and their products WORK. I’ve talked about this lip glossy more times than I can remember and in my Favorite Everyday Make-up Products, but it really is the best thing that has ever happened for my lips! Right now, Kopari is offering free shipping on orders over $30 if you want to gie them a try! AND I just found out that this lip glossy also comes in tinted shades too!

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CeraVe Moisturizor

I always talk about how I battle with adult acne and how dry my skin is, and ever since I started using this stuff, my skin has had so many less problems with dryness and clogged pores! Especially in the winter! You can get this stuff anywhere!

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Dermideli Pumpkin Serum

I have also talked about this product before as well in my November Ipsy Bag Review, but this is definetly my go-to face oil in the winter. It is SO HYDRATING. Right now, I put it on before bed and before I apply my moisturizor for the night, and I mix it in with my Tarte Amazonian Clay Foundation and I don’t dry up all day!


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Girl, Wash Your Face – Rachel Hollis

So I just started reading this book, and this will totally be my winter read. If you’re into feeling freaking awesome about yourself, buy it or rent it and give it a read! Or ask me to borrow it after I’m done!

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Oat Milk Latte

I don’t have a website for this one, but if you’re in the Hickory Hills area, check out Strange Brew Cafe in Palos Hills right across the street from Green Hills Library!

They offer oat milk there and it is seriously so so good!

OR if there is a coffee shop that offers oat milk, get your next drink made with it and thank me later!


That’s all for me folks! I hope you found something new to try here! Let me know your thoughts and have a great holiday!!


Stay curious & kind