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Feeling Good at 23

On Tuesday of this week, I turned 23. I have spent a lot of this week realizing that this is the best that I have felt about myself EVER. So I started thinking “what makes me feel this way?” “what lessons have I learned in my 23 short years to make me so happy in life?”.

These are the 23 things that I have learned and realize to help me feel good about myself and the world around me.

  1. Your real friends will tell you how they feel, but support you no matter what.

Everyone is different, includint the people we surround ourselves with, but the true people that are meant to be in your life, even if they disagree with you, will support you no matter what.

2. If you ever want to feel like a VS model, throw a short dress on and put on some black thigh highs.

Thank me later.

3. People always say “practice makes perfect”, but I disagree. I think I learned this in high school band and it serioualy apploies to every aspect of my life. “Perfect practice makes perfect”. 

4. Don’t stop yourself from doing something that makes you happy just becuase you’re scared of what people will think. 

I’ll use this platform as an example. When I started my blog and correlating Instagram, I was so scared people would judge me, and they did. I have lost hundreds of followers, including friends. BUT IT’S OKAY!! Not everyone will want to see everything you’re doing. It’s not their cup of tea and THAT IS OKAY. As long as you are doing what makes you happy, you’ll find the people that want to follow along on your journey, whatever that may be.

5. Avocados make everything better. 

Amen.

6. Learn to be comfortable with discomfort. 

I learned this one during student teaching. This world and society like to make us think and feel certain ways. So whenever something isn’t a part of the status quo or something of that sort, those topics are avoided. To grow your mind, heart, and spirit, I feel like it is important to talk about and experience the things that make us uncomfortable to ultimatly be comfortable in that discomfort.

7. The perfect shade of red lipstick is out there. And once you find yours, you will feel unstoppable. 

Mine is Estee Lauder! Revlon Ultra HD Matte is also a great one.

8. Never stop being curious. 

The more curious you are, the more you learn.

9. Learn to see the good. 

As difficult as this is sometimes, we have one life. See the good in it and I promise you will wake up everyday more excited to live this life. Also, learn to see the good in people, even the ones that make it difficult to.

10. Mental health is important. 

For a long period of my life I avoided this statement because I didn’t realize what it was doing to me and to others around me. When I started prioritizing it, I became a kinder person to other and myself.

11. Mile Cyrus and Lady Gaga are the queens. 

Fight me on it. I promise I’ll win. 😉

12. To show vulernability and transparency requires an unbelievable amount of stength. 

Being yourself and not apologizing for how you feel is hard, but worth it.

13. A fresh set of nails is telling the world you have your shit together and that you are FIERCE and READY. 

14. Everybody is different and every body is beautiful.

AKA fuck society’s standards of beauty.

15. Work out.

Even if it’s literally once a week, challenge your body and see it’s potential.

16. Never go out without feeling like a 10/10.

Even if it takes 3 hours to get there, you deserve to be insecurity-free and feeling like a DIME when you go out.

17. Collaboration over competition. 

Support each other. It gets lonely when all you think about is yourself.

18. It is okay to binge-watch a whole series on Netflix in one night while drinking a bottle of wine. 

DO IT. You deserve it.

19. Self reflection will seriously change your life. 

20. Pineapple belongs on pizza. 

21. Never lower your standards. 

You are priceless, so find people that treat you that way.

22. Everyone has a story. If you take the time to listen to it, you might find out some pretty amazing things. Even about yourself. 

23. Choose Joy.

That’s all I have for you today, friends 🙂

Always remember,

Stay curious & kind

–-TheBestSings 

 

Stop Feeling Sorry For Yourself

Hi everyone! I am so happy that you’re back! 

I’m sorry for the harsh title, I just really wanted to get your attention.

But don’t worry, I’ll cover the title in this post too!

I’m not really sure how to introduce this topic, but I feel like it’s one that should be spoken about, so I’ll just get into it!

**I will always say this little reminder, I am not an expert, I am not a guru, I am an imperfect person sharing her experiences and hopefully helping or influencing someone to live their best life.**

You are capable, you are couragious, you are worthy, and you are strong.

Telling myself these things seem a little dramatic and cheesy sometimes, but I need to say them to myself for some pretty uplifting reasons.

Growing up, my self-esteem mixed with my on-going anxiety has held me back by constantly telling me lies about myself. “I’m not short enough, I am so socially awkward, I’m not skinny enough, I am so weird, I am way too different, why can’t I enjoy what people my age enjoy?” The list goes on. Except the thing is, I didn’t even realize how often these thoughts were in my head. It’s like they are always there, but not in the forefront of my mind. Which in effect completely altered how I viewed myself and my life.

That is why I fill my life with compliments. I tell myself these “cheesy” and “dramatic” things because at the end of the day, if you’re not nice to yourself, it really won’t matter if other people are because you will always be in a negative headspace.

You are in control of how you view yourself and how you view your life. 

These negative and diminshing thoughts that run through your head are SO MUCH EASIER to hold onto than the positive and empowering thoughts. They are easier because feeling sorry for yourself requires less work than actually going out and becoming the best version of yourself. 

Don’t get me wrong, I have had days that I should have been doing anything but lying in bed eating ice cream and feeling sorry for myself, but I did it anyways. No one is perfect and everyone has bad days, everyone has bed weeks, everyone has bad months.

I’m not saying to ignore your struggles, but I am challenging you to transform them into motivation to become the best possible person you can be.

How I attempt to do that:

  • I take a step back and really think about what the most negative parts of my life are.
  • I take those negatives and decide what I should do about them. Whether that be completely throwing them out of my life or changing them into something good and empowering.

The best example that I can give you is how I view myself. This is an ongoing struggle for not only me, but I’m sure most of you. I take my weight. I always feel so sorry for myself when it comes to my weight. I take that negative energy (even if it takes a month to do so, because remember, no one is perfect) and I make a plan to change it. I just recently went through this change after months of feeling sorry for myself and treating my body badly.

Even the smallest step helps. 

In result, I started intermittent fasting and signed up for Orange Theory Fitness with my girlfriends. I already feel so much more alive and I’ve only been doing it for about a week!

The point of all of this: 

You are in control of your own life.

You are capable of amazing and powerful things.

But you have to decide that you want to achieve those things.

It’s so much easier said than done, I know. But even if this little reflection of mine made you start reflecting a little on your own life, then I feel like I have fulfilled some good today.

Remember, you are capable, you are couragious, you are worthy, and you are strong.

Now go and prove it to yoruself.

Sidenote: 

Share your stories with me. Let’s have conversations! I love talking to you all and hearing your feedback. We can all help each other through things like this! That’s the whole reason why I do this!

Stay curious & kind,

–TheBestSings